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dating crap
Some recent experiences have lead me to realize what it is that I'm looking for in a relationship. I've been told that I don't give people a chance, but there's a reason for that -most girls that I meet up with simply DON'T LISTEN or THINK about what I have to say, and if it's like that from the beginning then its only going to get worse.
I make a conscious effort to listen (and if you know me that takes a lot of effort), and I respond thoughtfully. I ask the important questions, what do you do, what do you aspire to, etc...and I get answers, but when its the other way around, well, the level of reciprocation is not enough for me -and I'm not the type of person who can commit to that type of relationship.
Most of the women I meet don't think. They don't read books like 'The Fountainhead' by Ann Rand and the ideals she's trying to get across. They read books like Harry Potter (which I've read and found to be entertaining), books that aren't thought provoking -books that don't require them to question the world around them and their own understanding of it. I'm not saying that I'm too smart for them. If anything I'm most likely of a lower brain capacity (IQ whatever), but at least I 'try' to go beyond my own understanding of things, and wish to talk to someone about them.
A lot of the girls that I've dated are smart, but they're not focused and selfish. Is it just me, or can I make a generality here?
Why are people so afraid of defying convention and expressing what they REALLY think instead of what they're told to think? I truly believe that everyone is an individual who think of life differently, but are afraid to express themselves because they don't want to be 'rejected' by others. But don't they see that that's what life is truly about? That's character. That's individualism. And that's honesty, integrity, and above all what changes the world.
I will not settle for anything less. I will not settle for rehashed thoughts and ideals which cause others to not understand or listen to my challenge. It is not only a selfish person who does so, but also one who can never truly share or admit who they are.
I make a conscious effort to listen (and if you know me that takes a lot of effort), and I respond thoughtfully. I ask the important questions, what do you do, what do you aspire to, etc...and I get answers, but when its the other way around, well, the level of reciprocation is not enough for me -and I'm not the type of person who can commit to that type of relationship.
Most of the women I meet don't think. They don't read books like 'The Fountainhead' by Ann Rand and the ideals she's trying to get across. They read books like Harry Potter (which I've read and found to be entertaining), books that aren't thought provoking -books that don't require them to question the world around them and their own understanding of it. I'm not saying that I'm too smart for them. If anything I'm most likely of a lower brain capacity (IQ whatever), but at least I 'try' to go beyond my own understanding of things, and wish to talk to someone about them.
A lot of the girls that I've dated are smart, but they're not focused and selfish. Is it just me, or can I make a generality here?
Why are people so afraid of defying convention and expressing what they REALLY think instead of what they're told to think? I truly believe that everyone is an individual who think of life differently, but are afraid to express themselves because they don't want to be 'rejected' by others. But don't they see that that's what life is truly about? That's character. That's individualism. And that's honesty, integrity, and above all what changes the world.
I will not settle for anything less. I will not settle for rehashed thoughts and ideals which cause others to not understand or listen to my challenge. It is not only a selfish person who does so, but also one who can never truly share or admit who they are.
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